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Sooner rather than later, you may have to decide whether the person you've been talking to online will be worth meeting in person. While states are beginning to reopen after getting their coronavirus cases under control, even going on a socially distant date can feel a bit risky. Besides, just because you connected with someone online, it doesn't always mean that you'll click in person. And no one really wants to risk their health for a bad date. So, what can you do to determine who you should or shouldn't go out with post-quarantine?

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In our Love App-tually series, Mashable shines a light into the foggy world of online dating.

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It is cuffing season after all. But there I was, sitting on my sofa, worrying if I was, to quote indie pop band London Grammar, wasting my young years. It had been a difficult week, to say the least.

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I was sleep-deprived and my anxiety was running riot. What I needed most right then and there was a quiet, restorative night of doing nothing. I was hiding under a blanket on my sofa when my phone started flashing like a lighthouse on the horizon. Four Hinge notifications appeared on my home screen in close succession.

I had a new match named Jake. My eye scrolled downwards to see that Jake wasn't wasting any time: He wanted to meet up. Right now. I really didn't want to do that. It was 9 p. The last thing I wanted to do was leave the house for what felt like a booty call.

My instinct was to put myself first on this night.

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But that came with a small kick of guilt that I was somehow failing at dating. I couldn't seem to shake the feeling that I was boring and a tiny bit selfish for wanting to stay home. You'll be alone forever at this rate, whispered a small voice in my head.

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How had a message from a stranger had this effect on me? Truth is, Jake is one of many guys in my phone asking to meet up straight after matching. Dating app interactions are becoming increasingly fast-paced.

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That palpable culture shift is a reaction against the "swiping fatigue" that began to plague the dating industry in This swiping ennui resulted in daters collecting countless matches, but having low-quality interactions that didn't lead to an actual in-person date. Daters became more and more frustrated with accumulating matches who didn't seem serious about testing the waters offline.

Now the pendulum has swung so far in the opposite direction, we may have overcorrected. But we can fix this. We can bring balance back to the online dating world by being honest about preferring to chat online before meeting up IRL. If you're in need of self-care and don't feel like explaining why, then don't.

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If your schedule is packed, suggest alternatives like voice-noting or FaceTime. It is percent OK to say no when a match wants to meet up straight away.

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Spare yourself the guilt, if you can. As for me, I had nothing against Jake. But I'd had zero conversation with him, so I had absolutely no idea whether we were even a good match personality-wise. I weighed whether I wanted to expend the mental energy of explaining the reasons why I couldn't meet up right now.

When an online match wants to meet up immediately, it’s ok to say no

But, to be frank, I just didn't feel like it. I didn't have to explain anything. I ignored the request, stowed away my phone and hit play on my TV remote. A few days later — and feeling well-rested after several nights on the sofa — I spotted a tweet that really spoke to me. Poorna Bell, an author and journalist who writes about mental health, tweeted that if a match asks to meet up want very little notice, "don't feel guilty or like you'll miss out on 'the one' if you don't.

Work to your own timeline. I knew from meet to friends that I was far from alone in feeling this way. But You tweet made me feel validated in the decision I'd made that night. On-demand dating has been on the rise for some time. Couple that with the growing frustration with breadcrumbing and swiping fatigue and it makes sense that some people are trying to seal the deal and land a date straight away.

This change in dating culture might explain why more and more daters are sliding into your inbox asking to meet up straight away. Dating apps have also played a part in this gear-shift.

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Some popular apps are actively encouraging users to meet up sooner. Naomi Walkland, associate director for Europe and Middle East marketing at Bumble, told Mashable that "getting asked out on a date shortly after you have matched with someone online can sometimes be overwhelming.

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There is the option of extending that window, particularly if you don't have "first move privileges" a Bumble feature which allows only one person to break the ice first. While dating culture has shifted to combat swiping fatigue, not all online daters are on board with the newfound immediacy.

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Adele, a want healthcare assistant who prefers to use only her first name as her surname is very recognisable, told me she feels "absolutely terrified, with a side of suspicion" when a match wants to meet up straight away. She does not, however, feel pressured to meet up. She does a "full vetting first" and prefers to see their You and Instagram profiles before meeting up. Anyone worth seeing would understand. Sam Espensen, a spirits producer, used to feel pressured by matches, particularly when the other person is persistently pushing to meet up. She did say yes once, but meet cancelled a few hours before the date.

And they may have bad intentions," she added. If you do want to meet up with this person, you could consider telling them you're bringing a friend, Sam suggested.

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There are other ways of "meeting" without having to take the step of meeting up in person. Chatting over voice notes, if you're comfortable with it, can provide the opportunity to get a sense of your match's personality ahead of arranging a date. If your schedule is jam-packed, you could also try a quick video chat on FaceTime.

Bumble also has a video calling feature so you can chat face-to-face over the app without disclosing your mobile. If you notice a spark while voicenoting or video-chatting, try moving things into an in-person date.

15 questions to ask your date before you meet up in person

Dating culture is in high-gear, but you don't need to drop everything just to keep pace. There will be times in everyone's life where meeting up immediately doesn't work. Sometimes your busy work schedule won't sync up with a match's. Other times, your calendar might be free as a bird, but you're in desperate need of downtime.

The right person will understand.

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Don't feel bad about putting yourself first. Fine break up with me, but let me keep Instagramming your dog. What the hell is Ghost Exorcism Day? How to revive Craigslist's Missed Connections.

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